Delete. Rinse. Repeat. The concept of moving on was discussed and since this is one that is easy to do with a block, delete, unfriend and no reply, to end a relationship to "move on" no longer requires seeing the other person face to face. Getting rid of the talk, the actual closure, might fail to happen though maybe that's just me and not for people who have interwined their bond to include the tech part of it.
Moving on. Does it require what? The clearest explanation I got was moving forward in life as life does continue while one is moping not mopping the floors. Another one was to go from one to the next one. I don't get it. The concept of moving on for me is acceptance. If one has accepted that it's over then healing and repair can begin not reformatting. Wipe out does work but then there are times that the memory will jar the emotions, and when that happens, there is no moving on. Moping is part of the pain process of loving, correct? And when it is experienced, it seems like the world does stop, as the love might be lost. Of course, only the one you love can give such pain yet it is all emotion, indeed.
We might go about life focusing on someone then get blinded to the others that are there for us. In all things, it is a decision. Live with pain and hurt or not? Then upon realizing that it is rough sailing and the end is unclear, even to enjoy the times together gets tainted, so it must be ended. It is acceptance of the reality of the situation that harms the inside - then the determination to make the changes.
Moving on is a concept that is applied only when the relationship isn't working out. And, it is a decision. To make the changes is not easy as there is difficulty in letting go due to the time and effort yet there are paths that are much easier, simpler, and happier.
Drawing into light the concept of moving on - this can only happen when one makes a decision to no longer deal with the pain and saying. "Enough!" Severing a good relationship completely, for me, doesn't really work as things have to be made clear and then how weird, the one that is lost and cried for does come back. Was it wrong to be needy? No. Yet if the relationship does not fulfill the needs then back out and give yourself and the other person a break.
Moving on for me means to first stop completely. Then if there is no one there to catch the fall, dealing with it. If there is someone there to catch the fall then make sure it is worth it. Settling for less isn't an option as that won't work, one has to avoid leaving the frying pan to go to the fire and avoid gong into another frying pan.
When the emotions stop overwhelming, it is time to make a decision. And, a decision to be happy is there, no need to ask Siri who will say that to find happiness, one must turn on location services.
Starting off my day by waking up to a knock on the door by someone who was looking for work, dragging myself out of the comfortable sofa I fell asleep on to open the door and saying to the guy who knocked that when I have work for him, I will text and I am still asleep, to crash back on the sofa, to bask in the feeling of feeling good to have done more than move on, as what I want is going to be there for me and never enough for today, not enough to stop the ridiculous notion that a relationship can work out without grabbing what is there - and found that there is a path that has no pain and yes, I am happy, today, without worries - it's all a decision as when the heart and mind agree, that works. I am free.
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